low self-esteem, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment....
scary, overwhelming, opening old wounds...
Prior to June 2006, people who were in the process of applying for contact information were able to seek counselling around the process of reunion. This kind of counselling deals with support and guidance pre-, during, post- the search process , planning and preparing for reunions;
core issues through the reunion process for adoptees such as feelings of rejection, fear of instablity in ones current life and emotional healing, and fear, anxiety about opening old wounds (such as thinking about/talking about the birth father in whatever context that might be) experienced by birth parents. Counselling assisted people in determining if they were ready to make contact and to deal with negative emotions that surround the reunion. It gave them tools for preparing their loved ones and for coming to terms with the existence of this person that they are connected to who hasn't been a part of their life all this time. This counselling process was removed when the policy changes took place, and it certainly has left a gap in the support and experiences of those attempting to reconnect with.
As part of the amendments to the current policy, we would like to see counselling made available to both the adoptee and the birth parent if they desire and or require it. As used to be the case, this could be offered by the CAS that the adoption order was completed through, or through the CAS that is local to the individual.
L.
scary, overwhelming, opening old wounds...
Prior to June 2006, people who were in the process of applying for contact information were able to seek counselling around the process of reunion. This kind of counselling deals with support and guidance pre-, during, post- the search process , planning and preparing for reunions;
core issues through the reunion process for adoptees such as feelings of rejection, fear of instablity in ones current life and emotional healing, and fear, anxiety about opening old wounds (such as thinking about/talking about the birth father in whatever context that might be) experienced by birth parents. Counselling assisted people in determining if they were ready to make contact and to deal with negative emotions that surround the reunion. It gave them tools for preparing their loved ones and for coming to terms with the existence of this person that they are connected to who hasn't been a part of their life all this time. This counselling process was removed when the policy changes took place, and it certainly has left a gap in the support and experiences of those attempting to reconnect with.
As part of the amendments to the current policy, we would like to see counselling made available to both the adoptee and the birth parent if they desire and or require it. As used to be the case, this could be offered by the CAS that the adoption order was completed through, or through the CAS that is local to the individual.
L.
